Thursday, 30 November 2017

OPERATION NON-HIBERNATION

Ever felt like you’ve got yourself in a rut?
 

My cheeky punky laddo, doing some Autumnal chilling 😅

 I was feeling exactly that -  especially as Autumn makes me feels lethargic, sluggish, tired, and a bit like I just want to hibernate whilst its cold, dark and miserable weather outside.
To try and combat this, a month ago I set myself a challenge: a self-imposed “Operation Non-Hibernation”.
I set myself just three targets that I wanted to complete consistently every single day that would benefit my wellbeing, which were:

 
Apparently it takes 21 days to form new habits by doing them consistently - and consecutively!
So I tried my very best, and today, on the last day of November, I am pleased to announce that I have successfully completed my challenge!

 
Looking back over the last 30 days, here’s some reflections on what I did and what I learnt:
1. 25 minutes of exercise
I discovered earlier this year at the Leeds 10K that I hate running with a burning passion (it makes me hot, tired, perspire, and chunky bits of me, erm, jiggle!) - and so running is not for me.
Instead I had decided that my exercise every day would be at least 25 minutes of brisk walking with my German Shepherd, Jerry Lee.
 
These were the benefits:
 - A tired dog is a well behaved dog! Jerry Lee normally only gets a quick whizz round our nearby park, so upping the exercise knackers the cheeky boy out for the day.
- Amazingly, no body weight has been gained, despite an excessive amount of pizza consumption this month!
- When you exercise first thing in the morning, it boosts your energy for the day. Some afternoons I didn’t even need my usual nap!
- I now thoroughly enjoy being my local neighbourhood’s Nosy Parker. I checked out new streets, assessed kerb appeals of each property I passed, AND found two unkempt houses which then received a direct-to-vendor mail letter, just in case they wanted to sell…
Captain Poser looking super sexy on his stroll!

 
2. Drink 2 litres of water
This gets easier the more you do it. You just have to be organised!
 Separate your water allocation into 8 glasses, or 4 x 500ml/half litre small bottles, (which bizarrely is easier to drink than the glasses - ?!?) Then make sure you’ve necked your allocation by each quarter on the clock: 9am, 12pm, 3pm, 6pm etc.
The days it goes wrong are when you don’t drink enough consistently, and then you have to squash it all in over a short time period – leading to about 48 toilet trips every hour!
Anyway, benefits I found were:
 - Less bloating from the water, as it replaced many of the fizzy drinks I would normally have.
 - Felt less hungry than normal; water is good for filling you up - which is good in my case, because I’m a greedy glutton who often tries to eat my own body weight in chocolate.
- My skin is awesome!!! Bright, fresh, hydrated, clear – if I’m not careful I’ll start getting ID-ed in supermarkets again!
 - Water is very good for, erm, digestion. Things go lovely and smoothly in the removal of waste products, if you know what I mean… if anyone you know suffers from constipation issues, tell them to get more water down them!
 
 
 
 
Finally...
3. Do something nice or helpful for somebody else
I liked this one the best. However, some days it was quite difficult to do. It’s ok if you’re working around people every day, but on the days when you’re stuck in on your own in your little home office, you have to make a real conscious effort to make something nice or helpful happen.
Here’s some of my favourite nice and helpful things I did for other people this month:
 - took my dream team refurb crew out for a celebratory/thank you curry
 - donated to someone’s charity challenge through JustGiving
 - sold poppies for the Royal British Legion
 - took my air cadets away on a camp in the Yorkshire Dales
 - bought lunch for a homeless person. Enjoyed the nice feeling it gave me so much that I did it again today.
 


 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Bizarrely some of the other things I did which just involved spending money – buying someone a cinema ticket / pizza / water / buying a friend lunch / sacrificing my chips for my hungry friend / paying for a taxi – these just didn’t feel as rewarding.
I think it’s an easy fix to just throw money at something. And yet I fully appreciate my own self-contradiction that it’s a shame that when it's so easy to do, more people don’t use their money to help others. Small things count better than nothing at all. Even the lady at the checkout who I gave a 10p carrier bag to was grateful for the  kind little gesture.
 
I would love it if we all did more nice things for other people.
I enjoyed it for no other reason than that nice feeling it gave me inside.
 
 
So to summarise: my challenge felt difficult at times, but I made myself do these things consistently, because I didn’t want to let myself down.
The fact that I had mouthed off to everyone on Facebook also had the advantage of keeping me accountable.
But consistency is key. One day at a time.
 
Do something every single day which moves you towards your goal.
 
Completing this challenge has got me wondering:
 
What else could I achieve, if I set targets and stick to doing them consistently?
 
 
I reckon absolutely anything I want to.
 

 
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Have a lovely day!
 
Kellyann x x x


 






 









 











 











 













 













 















 















 














 











 

 

 
 

 
 

 
 


 





 
 












 














 
 






















 
 






















 
 






















 
 






















 
 


















 



 
 

 
 
 















 















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 















 
















 















 
















 
















 















 
















 
















 
















 















 
















 















 
















 















 
















 















 
















 
















 
















 
















 
















 















 














 












 

 

 


 

 




 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 

Friday, 10 November 2017

Tantrum Time: What to do when things go wrong

Just now, something went badly wrong, and so I am writing today’s blog as an attempt to self-soothe.
Twenty minutes ago I was INFURIATED, but already I feel better as I relay into print this hapless tale of disappointment.
All week I had been looking forward to my coaching session at 1pm near Birmingham with a business coach.



I had prepped my materials, thought about my vision, planned the journey with handwritten directions (I’m old-school), and even ironed a shirt! (ironing is the work of the devil, so not common in mein haus)

I knew it would take me 2 hours 4 minutes to drive the 120.6 miles, so I left my house at 10:17am, with 2 hours and 43 minutes to do it in, you know, just in case things went wrong.

And then I got in my car... and the piece of sh!t wouldn’t start.
I don’t give up that easily though, so tried many dozen times to get it going, encouraged it with various colourful names, and rang two manly men for advice and assistance - to no avail. Then I thought I would try and push it backwards down my drive to try and bumpstart it - only to smash the hanging basket planter off the wall with my car door.


Then I got really desperate and went and asked my elderly pensioner neighbour if he could help. He tried, bless him, but couldn’t, mainly because my drive is uphill, tight and narrow, with no chance of using another car to jump start it.
I am, in the words of Colonel Abrams, Trapped, like a fool, I’m in a cage, I can’t get out…



Now I’m sure you’ve been there yourself, and experienced that overwhelming frustration and downright infuriation about things you’ve planned going wrong because of external causes.
What I hate most of all in situations like this is the utter sense of hopelessness. You’ve exhausted all other options, and it is exasperating that still you can’t do anything to make it right in the timeframe.

So as I sit here and wait for Green Flag to come and do some manly mechanical magic, I contemplate how to cheer myself up from my bitter disappointment.


I read a top tip yesterday in Jen Sincero’s book ‘You Are A Badass’ that said when bad things happen, you should turn it around by starting with ‘I’m glad this happened because…’

So here goes:
I’m glad my car broke down because…
 - gosh this is hard, I’m not glad at all… no, keep going…
- it’s a warning that something is not quite right with my car, which could have led to something more dangerous.
 - it’s a lesson that life occasionally gets in the way of plans.
 - it’s shown to me that I at least try to be reactive and resourceful in times of need.
 - it proves that bad things happen to everyone at times, through no fault of their own.
- it’s made me grateful of every single other time that the car didn’t let me down.
- it’s made me realise that I can’t have my own way all the time
- it’s shown me that having a shouting, swearing tantrum has absolutely no effect, other than putting myself in a bad mood. So therefore it’s pointless wasting energy doing it in future.
- it helps me put problems into perspective.
Nobody died, and only death is unfixable. So get a grip of yourself.








Feel a bit better now, after I’ve had a word with myself.



I’m glad I read that top tip yesterday… because it’s helped today when things went wrong.

And thus I hope passing on this tip helps you avoid a tantrum when things go wrong.


Take care, and have a lovely day,
Kellyann x x x